Common Issues

 

Depression

 

Depression can be a normal response to the stress of life. It can also be something that can arise in the absence of an event or experience. Depression becomes problematic when it begins to impact your ability to function or when it interferes with the quality of your life.

Depressive symptoms include problems with sleep, appetite, attention and concentration, feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, or worthlessness, an inability to enjoy things, lack of a sex drive, social withdrawal, low energy, poor motivation, and sometimes thoughts of suicide or self-harm. Sometimes children can exhibit different symptoms than adults, such as irritability or acting out.

Depression is more than a couple bad days; depression can last for weeks or longer. Depression has been shown to run in families and can be triggered by a variety of stressful events (e.g., the death of a loved one, a significant loss, a disappointing event, or problems in one's social or occupational life). Depression can also be triggered by a bio-chemical imbalance.

The counselors at Healing Telephone Counselling offer a wide variety of approaches to treating depression. Learn how to manage depressive symptoms, change negative self-talk, engage in pleasurable activities, challenge erroneous belief systems, find meaning in your life, and process or explore the possible causes of your depression and identify what may be perpetuating your depression.

Note: If you or someone you know are thinking about harming yourself or attempting suicide, talk with someone who can help right away. You can call the toll-free, 24-hour hotline of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at -phone - and be connected to a trained counselor. You can also make a call on behalf of a friend or family member.

 

Anxiety & Panic

 

Anxiety is a normal and healthy reaction in many situations. A little anxiety can be motivating. It can also increase one's level of alertness. However, when anxiety becomes overwhelming or chronic, it can interfere with daily functioning.

There are different types of anxiety that may cause problems in one's life. There is Social Anxiety, wherein an individual fears large crowds or crowded places. People experiencing social anxiety often feel that others are negatively evaluating them or that they will be humiliated or ridiculed. As a result, they often avoid social activities or restrict their outings.

Another type of anxiety, referred to as Specific Phobia, is when an individual is afraid of one specific thing, place, or situation. Common phobias include: the fear of flying, public speaking, driving, heights, bridges, or closed in places, such as elevators.

If anxiety is more diffuse, the worries takes up a lot of one's time, and seem excessive, this is called Generalized Anxiety. People with anxiety disorders usually have problems functioning in areas of their lives, such as at work, at home, and/or at school. They may also experience symptoms such as tension, irritability, difficulty relaxing, restlessness, difficulty sleeping, difficulty concentrating, or being easily fatigued.

If the anxiety is acute, in that the symptoms appear within ten minutes and include racing heart, sweating, shakiness, sensations of shortness of breath, chest pain, feeling dizzy, lightheaded, a fear of going crazy or fear of dying, this is referred to as a Panic Attack. Often times, individual who experience any significant anxiety report a reduction in the quality of their lives. The good news is that there are evidenced-based treatments available to help you, or someone you care about, overcome these problems.

 
 

Abuse - Physical, Elder, Financial, Social, Sexual, Emotional and or Verbal

 

Abuse can take many forms, such as mental or emotional abuse, physical abuse or threats of abuse, and sexual abuse. Two of the most vulnerable would be children and elderly of whom has been abused, yet all abuse is concerning. Many adults experience abuse every day and may be isolated to others. The results of abuse are often devastating for both the victim and those caring for victims. Often abuse results in feelings of helplessness, anger, rage, guilt, shame, confusion, and dislike of oneself. Any form of abuse is unacceptable; however, it is hard to reach out to others, as trust is often shattered. Counsellors with Healing Telephone Counselling will understand the difficulties to portray an ordeal. This is a safe environment, that you can talk about the issue where you feel comfortable most. Your feelings are important and your mind operating healthy assists in your body operating healthy. We can provide that type of supportive therapy. Sharing your story is the first step to moving on with your life and taking back your control. As you learn that abuse is never okay, you can move from victim hood to self-compassion and understanding. Learn to free yourself from the emotional pain or learn how to effectively deal with those you care for who have been victims of abuse by seeking the help from a professional mental health worker at Healing Telephone Counselling. Note: For those of looking for help with alcohol or drug abuse, please see Addiction and Recovery..

ADHD / ADD and Learning Disabilities

 

Children face many challenges today, especially in school environments. With technology exploding, it's no wonder they seem more distracted and have difficulty focusing and processing information. Learning disabilities can be identified in many ways, and are usually apparent when children begin school. They can range from minor processing issues to more severe impulsivity and social issues, including ADD/ADHD.

Parents of children with learning disabilities often struggle with feelings of fear, guilt, and shame, as well as can become lost in a school system where their child becomes labeled.

Fortunately, there are techniques parents can learn and practice with their learning disabled child in order to empower themselves and their child, strengthen their relationships, and ensure their child develops a strong sense of self despite the learning disability.

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), also known as ADD, can be a difficult burden for your child and your family. ADHD becomes apparent in children at an early age and can sometimes continue into adulthood. An estimated 3 to 5 percent of children have ADHD.

Common characteristics can include inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity, or a combination of these things. It is often difficult for individuals with ADHD to pay attention or control their behaviors. They may appear absent minded, have difficulty finishing projects, lose things, have difficulty sustaining attention, lose interest in things quickly, have difficulty sitting still, taking turns, problems with interrupting, and may find it exceedingly difficult to stay still. These behaviors are usually observed in two or more areas (e.g., home, school, work).

Parents and other care givers of children with ADHD struggle with many issues related to ADHD, such as:

whether to use medication,

a fear that their child will be stigmatized,

concerns that their child will fall behind in school,

struggles with homework of completing of tasks or chores, etc.

These issues can be addressed with the help a professional counselor who is familiar with treating children, their families, and even adults with ADHD. Behavioral plans are usually the preferred method in treating individuals with this problem. Challenges are much easier to face when there is a plan in place. You can look to the professionals at Healing Telephone Counselling to bring more peace and structure to your home after learning the timeliest evidenced based approach to get results for you, your family, and your loved ones.

 

Addiction and Recovery

 

Addictions, physical or psychological, can have a devastating effect on one's life. Addictions come in many forms: while most people think of addictions as those related to alcohol, drugs, and/or cigarettes; there are a variety of other addictions.

Many people today live hectic lives, often with the goal of avoiding dealing with their true feelings. Individuals may be addicted to gambling, excessive spending, food, internet addiction, pornography, and even rage. They may use these methods to cope with uncomfortable thoughts and feelings.

Whether you or person you care about may have problems with addictions or compulsions, the counselors at Healing Telephone Counselling can help you understand what addiction and compulsive behaviors are all about. Having a knowledgeable and supportive counselor, available to you at any time of day or night, can be not only a comfort, but may prevent you from engaging in unhealthy behaviors. To be able to discuss your concerns with a non-judgmental counselor can help you to understand what and how addiction affects you or those you care about.

Whether you are struggling in this area or in a relationship with someone who struggles with this issue, help is a phone call away. Learn how to identify triggers, avoid triggers, learn coping strategies, and learn how to break free from the cycle of self-abuse.

A strong, well-developed Treatment Plan, with a well-thought out Relapse Prevention Plan, can be completed with you and your Healing Telephone Counselling counselor, to ensure the right path to overcoming your addictions and compulsions. One of the most noteworthy sayings in Recovery is If you fail to plan, You plan to fail. So start the journey of recovery today and learn the skills you need to have a healthy lifestyle and a sense of inner peace.

 

 

Adolescents

 

Raising adolescents can be a challenging task in today's society. Adolescents are introduced to new information and experiences at an alarming rate. Often parents, and their children, feel out of control during this stage of parenting. Having a teenager in the home can have a significant impact on all of the family. As parents, it is often difficult to distinguish between normal adolescent behaviour’s. Teens today face many pressures, between dealing with peer pressure, the pressure to look or dress a certain way, and the need to feel a sense of belonging. The task of adolescent, with identity formation and a start at independence can be a scary and worrisome time. Often parents do not have the skills or knowledge to know how to set healthy boundaries, waiver on setting limits, and understand appropriate discipline techniques. The issues that can arise during this time of great transformation include dealing with mood swings, choosing negative peers, problems with communication, impulsivity, and self-discipline. Families of adolescents are often confronted with issues such as rebellion, acting out, experimentation with drugs and sexuality, as well as struggling to keep a cohesive family. The counsellors at Healing Counselling are highly trained professionals who can take you step by step in helping you to implement and consistently enforce family values and goals. Through the use of professional help, you can begin to understand the dynamics and challenges of adolescence and help your teenager and your family to move through this stag of development in a more positive and meaningful manner. Parents can learn how to create behavioural plans, positive reinforcement techniques, and improve the possible dysfunctional behavioural patterns. Having an objective professional can have a significant impact on the family, as problem behaviour’s decrease and more positive family interaction and communication begin to take the place acting out, getting needs met in an unhealthy manner, and lack of family cohesiveness.

 

 

Adoption

 

Making the decision to adopt is significant. There are so many factors to consider. Anxiety is a natural response to this process, as there are so many unknowns. Having a professional counsellor to help you explore your feelings and thoughts can be a good place to start. Having decided to adopt, having recently welcomed an adoptive child in your home, or raising an adoptive child can also bring with it not only joys but many challenges. Adoptive parents often experience conflicted feelings, ambivalence, uncertainty, self-doubt or even regret. The counsellors at Healing Counselling can help you negotiate these and other feelings that you or those you love are dealing with. Counsellors can help you process your feelings, identify problems, help you to find solutions, discuss your goals and how to achieve those goals, as well as provide education on normal thoughts, feelings, and concerns around adoption. It is often the most challenging things in life are most rewarding. This is often said about adoption. If you, someone you care about, or even the individual who has been adopted, are struggling with these or other issues, the counsellors at Healing Counselling can and want to help.

 

 

Ageing / Caring for the Aged

 

One of the most rapid growing fields in mental health is called Geriatric Psychology. Today’s aging population is bigger than ever, and will continue to grow. As a result, people who are living longer are facing issues about how they wish to spend the rest of their lives. The may begin to question long held beliefs or find themselves stuck in regretting actions they took or failed to take. Ageing individuals may struggle with issues such as failing health, terminal illnesses, loneliness, depression, age-related mental decline, physical limitations, fears about dying, feeling guilty about having to depend on others, and grief around the death of close friends or relatives. The counsellors at Healing Counselling can help you to explore how you would like to spend the latter part of your life, as well as to help you make meaning of not only your past, but also help you achieve the goals you would like to accomplish. You owe it to yourself to have the highest quality of life in your golden years. Learn to identify your needs and address those needs with the help of a supportive and caring Healing Counselling counsellor.

 

 

Anger Management

 

Some anger is normal and even healthy. People can express their anger in a variety of unhealthy ways which include yelling, destroying property, creating a scene, outbursts, shutting down emotionally or even anger turned inward.

This topic area is for people dealing with anger issues or people in a relationship with someone with anger management issues. Typical problems that can arise from anger include: difficultly staying in long term relationships, feelings of helpless knowing that you or someone you care about may erupt at any time, and problems dealing with issues that arise at work, at school or at home.

Anger can interfere with true intimacy and can also have devastating effects on one's physical health. If you or someone you care about is letting unmanaged anger issues impact the quality of life, it is time to learn new behaviour’s and coping strategies. Exploring the cause behind one's anger and finding ways to intervene early on can help enhance relationships, self-esteem, and sense of wellbeing.

Learn about the signs and symptoms of escalating anger to take back control of your life. Counsellor’s at Healing  Counselling are trained professionals ready to help you and loved ones find a healthy way to manage fear, loss, and frustration without the need for excessive or inappropriate angry behaviour’s

 

 

Communication

 

Communication is not something that comes easily to everyone. It is actually a skill, which means it can be learned and taught. People often have difficulty communicating because they may not have had good role models or they may have had negative experiences in the past. Learning effective and appropriate communication skills can enhance all areas of your life, especially with your relationships. Too often people find themselves either shutting down or withdrawing because they feel they cannot express themselves, or alternately, they find that what they intended to say did not accurately get expressed. The effects of poor communication can be harmful to your goals. Commonly, people end up feeling frustrated, helpless, hopeless, hurt or angry because they either lack the skills of communication or are dealing with others who do not know how to effectively communicate. The counsellors at Healing Counselling are trained in the area of communication and can help you to build not only your communication skills, but teach you how to deal with others who have communication problems. Learn how to get your needs met in a direct and appropriate manner by learning effective techniques. You can learn how to set a healthy example and become a role model in your relationships by working with a counsellor who will identify what areas need improving and work to change those areas.

 

 

Children

 

Raising children, in today's society, can be a challenging endeavour. Children are introduced to information and experiences at a much younger age.

Parents and caregivers are often confused and unsure of how best to raise a child who will be emotionally healthy, well-adjusted, but also able to deal effectively with issues such as peer pressure, bullying, self-worth, and successful academic performance.

Caregivers are faced with finding a balance, often unsure of how to set appropriate limits, enforce healthy boundaries, saying no without feeling guilty, etc. Many caregivers today lead busy lives, and often are too tired or do not want to have to spend what little time they have disciplining their children. They may feel guilty at the hours spent away from their children and often end up being too permissive with their children to avoid power struggles or negative interactions. They may adopt the mindset that they would rather be popular with their children rather than parent their children.

Too often this best of intentions can result in a disservice to their children. Children today, more than ever, need to feel safe and need structure. Often parents are unsure of how best to provide this. The trained counsellors at Healing Counselling can help teach you how to deal effectively with these issues.

In addition to these issues, parents and caregivers face issues such as communication problems, dealing with children who are experiencing depression, separation anxiety, school anxiety, academic and learning problems, as well as issues around recent losses or chronic health issues (e.g., diabetes, autism, cancer, etc.). The professional counsellors at Healing Counselling can offer their expertise in helping you to feel good in your role as a caregiver and help find effective solutions to help ensure a happy environment for all of your family members.

 

 

Dealing with Disabilities

 

There are many types of disabilities. There are those that are mental (e.g., cognitive or learning disabilities), emotional, and physical. So too are their disabilities that are more personal in nature. Dealing with your own disability, or the disability of a loved one, can be challenging. Often times people are not prepared for these situations can experience a wide range of emotional and spiritual problems. It is not uncommon for individuals to experience frustration, anger, denial, grief, resentment, and/or depression, Often times individuals may isolate themselves, shut down emotionally, or experience problems with anger management. Sometimes dealing with a disability can even shake up one's faith. Disabilities can occur because of an event such as a stroke or accident, come on over time, or be something that has been present since birth. Disabilities can lead to depression, communication problems, family difficulties, and other issues. The counsellors at Healing Counselling can help you, or those you care for, learn how to better cope with disabilities. Learn about the importance of good self-care, the need for social support, and learn how to communicate in a way that can help you get your needs met.

 

 

Divorce / Separation

 

Trying to prevent a relationship from ending, working through a bitter separation, or taking control of your life after an important relationship has ended is difficult for anyone. Often people are left feeling angry, confused, sad, lonely, and filled with self-doubt.

The counsellors at Healing Counselling understand that when you experience any kind of loss, you not only grieve that loss, but also the loss of the hopes and dreams that go along with that loss. The professionals at Healing  Counselling can help you through this challenging time by helping you to make meaning of all that has happened, and work through your issues so that you can feel healthy and whole again.

Divorce or separation can be devastating. That is why it is listed as one of the five biggest stressors in life. But you do not have to go through this process alone. You can choose to learn from the loss and learn how to grieve in a healthy way so you do not lose who you are in the process.

Sometimes the difficult times in life afford people the opportunity to learn and grow. It can be a scary and confusing time when relationships change. Having an objective, highly trained mental health professional can help you with either trying to decide if separation or divorce is the right option, or how to cope with issues such as infidelity, feelings of betrayal, guilt, ands/or grief.

Counsellors are also aware that the changes that come with separation or divorce can impact children and other close relatives and friends. These issues can also be addressed to help minimize the negative effects on others and to ensure that the integrity of those relationships are maintained.

 

Eating Disorders / Body Image Disorders

 

Having an eating disorder can be extremely dangerous and dealing with this type of disorder challenging. As Eating disorders and body image disorders are on the rise, with more people going to extreme lengths to be thin and more men reporting problems in this area. Types of eating disorders include Anorexia, Bulimia, and Binge Eating. Left untreated, these disorders can become life threatening, When an individual has an eating disorder, it more often than not affects family and friends, Body image disorders and eating disorders can lead to unhealthy behaviour’s such as abstaining from food, over exercising, the use of laxatives, purging, or avoiding situations where food is present. Often the friends and family who are in a relationship with someone who has excessive issues with food and body image problems live in fear and frustration. The individuals who experience the problems are often in denial and use such defence mechanisms such as rationalization or minimization. The counsellors at Healing Counselling who specialize in this area can help you to assess your situation and formulate the best possible treatment plan.

 

 

Family Therapy

 

A mental health issue generally affects one's entire family. When problems arise, whether it is seen in one family member or between two or more members, the whole family is affected. Family therapy can help teach all members of the family that the problem seen in one person is often the result of many contributing factors. A Healing Counselling family therapist can help you and your family identify communication problems, problems with a lack of family structure, over-involvement with a family member(s), estrangement, faulty relational and interactional dynamics. Healing Counselling offers a great service in the area of family counselling, as you and your family do not all have to meet at a certain time and coordinate hectic schedules. Therapy can be provided to you and your family in your own home at a convenient time, including weekends and nights

 

 

Fears and Phobias

 

Phobias are defined as constant and excessive fears of an object or situation. These objects or situations or either avoided or tolerated under great distress. Phobias are among the most common types of psychiatric disorders. When a person notices a specific fear interfering with routine daily activities or feels that their quality of life is negatively impacted by the fear, then it is possible that he or she is suffering from a phobia. Common fears and phobias include: public speaking, leaving one’s house, crowds/public places, closed in spaces (e.g., elevators), flying, heights, bridges, tunnels, water, blood, etc. The counsellors at Healing Counselling are trained in evidenced-based treatments to help you overcome your fears and phobias. The most common approach is referred to as cognitive-behavioural therapy. This type of therapy is usually brief and solution focused. The mental health professionals can provide you with the skills and knowledge that can help you to experience a more enjoyable and less restrictive life.

 

 

Grief and Loss

 

A sudden loss, or threat of loss, can be a traumatic, life-altering event. Recovering generally takes time and each person experiences his or her grief in a unique and individual way. There are many types of losses, from the loss of a job, the loss of one's friendship, the loss of a marriage or relationship, the loss of a loved one, the loss of a pet, the loss of one's physical abilities, the loss of a home or the loss of a child. These and many other losses can take devastate individuals, families, and communities. There are other losses that are not often addressed but warrant attention and these include the loss of one's identity, reputation, integrity, and innocence. The impact of loss differs on both the individual and the perceived impact of that loss. Grief usually ensues and can take the form of denial, anger, bargaining, emotional numbing, guilt, and fears of acknowledging and accepting the loss. The counsellors at Healing Counselling can be there for you to help you deal with your loss. A counsellor can help you grieve in a healthy manner by helping you to work through your thoughts and feelings. A professional counsellor can be there for you and help you to avoid engaging in self-destructive or unhealthy coping strategies. It is never too late to revisit loss and feel your feelings; It is never too late to learn to let go; It certainly is not too late to ask for help.

 

 

HIV AIDS

Learning one has HIV can be a distressing, life-altering experience. Despite the fact that medical treatments continue to progress, allowing for a longer, higher quality of life, individuals diagnosed, or those in relationships with people who have been diagnosed, can experience a variety of feelings. There is much to consider, relative to being diagnosed. Issues such as the stigma attached to having the disease, the shame that some people report, the change in lifestyle, the fear of the disease exacerbating, etc. can all lead to feelings of loneliness, anger, fear, hopelessness and helplessness. Many of the counsellors at Healing Counselling are experienced in working with people who are dealing with HIV/AIDS or who have relations to individual with HIV, /AIDS, such as family, friends or partners. As can be expected, most programs and counselling services are geared to HIV/AIDS prevention; this can include assessing risks as well as creating skills and plans to help reduce risks and make better choices. For those diagnosed with HIV/AIDS counselling can including coping with the reality of having HIV/AIDS, building skills and plans to maximize long term health, and helping to reduce the risks spreading the infection. In addition, the counsellors at Healing Counselling can offer support and provide additional psychoeducation on chronic illness and its effects on one's emotional, spiritual, and physical well-being.

 

 

Impulse Disorders

The action of compulsively pulling one's hair, stealing, gambling, spending excessive amounts of money, is done because it initially feels good. However, impulse control problems are often difficult to control and can have negative effects on one's health, relationships, financial situation, and emotional well-being. Impulse problems arise when an individual fails to resist a drive or impulse to engage in an action. Usually there is an increase in tension or arousal before engaging in an action, followed by pleasure or relief. The result of this act can include feelings of guilt, shame, or regret. The counsellors at Healing Counselling can offer help for people suffering from an impulse disorder or those dealing with a friend or family member with an impulse disorder. Learn how to break the cycle of compulsive behaviour by identifying triggers, avoiding triggers, early intervention, coping strategies, and exploring underlying feelings and thoughts that may drive the impulses.

 

 

Marriage / Relationships

Many people today find that they have problems in their relationships but do not always know why or how to deal with these issues. Often partners lose the art of learning how to communicate with each other or find that they engage in unhealthy ways of relating. As a result, people can feel stuck, feel hopeless, helpless, or even resentful.

The good news is that the professional counsellors at Healing Counselling are trained in helping people to find solutions to the problems they are facing in their relationships.

Common issues that can occur, and become problematic, in a relationship include:

unhealthy communication styles

built up resentment, frustration

emotional withdrawal

sexual problems

financial issues

an overall lack of problem solving

Partners can end up feeling disconnected, controlled, worthless, and/or misunderstood. If these thoughts, feelings, or unhealthy behaviour’s continue to recur, relationships can suffer

The Healing counsellors can help you and/or your partner understand why thoughts and feelings arise and help you find ways to begin to bring meaning and joy back in to your relationship. Exploring patterns of relatedness, communication styles, and goals in your relationships can begin by a phone call to an objective, well-trained counsellor.

 

 

Men's Issues

Although men can experience a variety of issues, men do tend to have certain issues more than others. Issues seen more often in men include: substance abuse, anger management issues, impulse control problems, problems with intimacy, and sexual problems. Many men, in our culture, are socialized to not express their feelings, to deal with issues in a "logical or rational" way, and are taught that being vulnerable is a bad thing. It is not uncommon for some men not only to not share how they are feeling, but may not even know what they are feeling. There can be a disconnect when it comes to men knowing how they feel, opening up in their relationships, or allowing themselves to be sensitive. When emotions are not handled in a healthy manner or are repressed or denied, other behaviours can manifest. These behaviours are not always healthy or appropriate. Some of these mismanaged emotions and feelings can lead to addictions, compulsions, and avoidance behaviour’s. It is not surprising that some men feel safer expressing anger rather than hurt; that some men are working longer hours avoid dealing with issues at home; that false intimacy is created in relationships and vulnerability is avoided, or that addictions and compulsive behaviours are implemented in order to "numb out" or not feel certain feelings. There are counsellors at  who specialize in the area of men's issues. They are there to help identify and work toward your goals, by listening to you in a non-judgmental way, offering support, and providing psychoeducation on subjects relevant in your life.

 

 
 

Parenting

Parenting today is one of the most rewarding and challenging endeavours. Parenting requires different skills during your children's development, and can even differ depending on where you are in your own emotional, financial, or spiritual development. And since every child develops differently, parenting can be confusing and arduous. With the variety of family structure in today's society (e.g., blended families, homosexual couples parenting, adoptive parenting, single parenting, etc.), sometimes one feels overwhelmed or unsure. Good parenting usually takes a lot of time and commitment. The good news is that knowing how to be a good parent is relatively easy. The counsellors at  who specialize in this area can teach you the importance of healthy boundaries, effective discipline techniques, developmental stages and what to expect, normal age-appropriate behaviour’s, the importance of consistency, and the importance of raising a child with healthy self-esteem. Sometimes you just need a little help with understanding an issue or knowing how to deal with an issue. A professional counsellor can talk to you about your individual values, goal, and priorities to help you become the best parent you can be. A counsellor can not only provide support and knowledge but can give you the skills needed to take on any parental situation effectively and successfully. This can create not only a peaceful home environment but offer a sense of self-confidence and self-esteem.

 

Infertility

 

Infertility can be a great source of sadness, stress or shame for some individuals. Often individuals or couples are left with feelings of inadequacy, hopelessness, helplessness, self-doubt, anger (directed at one's self or partner), and/or jealousy toward others who may have children. The counsellors at Healing  Counselling can help an individual, couple, or family deal with issues such as: understanding and accepting an infertility diagnosis, options surrounding what choices you or you and your partner have, dealing effectively with the emotional stress that infertility can place on a relationship, as well as coping with all the feelings that go along with infertility.

 

 
 

Self Esteem

Having a healthy self-esteem or positive self-image is important for long term health and happiness. Your perception of yourself is shaped by many factors, beginning with your caretakers, and extending to friends, society and those with whom you choose to be involved. A healthy self-esteem allows one to meet the challenges of life. Without self-esteem, individuals can turn to unhealthy behaviour’s such as co-dependency, substance abuse problems, anger management problems, self-harm, and/or a lack of drive or goals in one's life. Self-esteem is something that can improve. With the help of a Healing counsellor, you can begin to improve your self-esteem. By working with a counsellor, you can learn how to refute negative self-talk, deal more effectively with your anxieties, challenge your erroneous thoughts about yourself, engage in new experiences to gain a sense of mastery, and try new behaviour’s that reinforce your positive self-worth. Having a solid sense of self-acceptance and a positive view of who you are can greatly enhance your relationships and your goals in life. You do not have to settle for a life less than great because you feel you do not deserve it. Begin to embrace who you are by reaching out for help from a Healing counsellor.

 

 

Sexual Issues

 

Having a sexual issue or concern is very normal. At some point in one's lifetime, a sexual issue is likely to arise. These issues can occur in both men and women. The issues can have a gradual or a sudden onset. Usually there is some confusion, shame, or depression that can result. Sexual issues include: sexual dysfunction, problems with arousal or desire, overactive sex drive, painful intercourse, concerns over masturbation, or fetishes. Sexual issues can manifest in physical or psychological problems, they can have diverse or unknown origins. They can result in problems with relationships, interpersonal problems or issues around intimacy. The counsellors at  can help you understand and cope with what you or your loved one may be experiencing. Counsellors can help you identify successful strategies to address both the emotional and physical aspects of sexual problems.

 

 

Spirituality

 

Many people experience times in their life when they have questions about, or concerns regarding, their spirituality or religious beliefs. Spiritual issues are not always tied into religion, as religion is the practicing of one's faith. Spirituality tends to deal more with meaning and existence, sometimes in a higher power, sometimes in the everyday world. It is often based on one's belief system. Sometimes a spiritual shift can occur when old behaviour’s or values no longer seem appropriate. This shift can occur gradually or have a rapid and marked shirt following an event or experience. Spirituality can be a fluid, often changing and growing. Some people may experience a spiritual crisis in their life; While others are just beginning to find spirituality in their life. The counsellors at Healing Counselling can help you to explore your spiritual concerns or issues, in a non-judgmental and supportive manner.

 

 

Trauma Therapy / PTSD

Post-Traumatic Disorder often referred to as PTSD, can occur at any age and can affect individuals of all races, social status, and gender. PTSD is a type of anxiety disorder. PTSD is often the result of having experienced or witnessed a traumatic event. The trauma usually involves feeling intense fear, helplessness or horror. Symptoms of PTSD can include recurring or intrusive thoughts about the trauma, distressing dreams of the trauma, acting or feeling like the traumatic event were recurring, significant psychological distress at exposure to things that are reminiscent of the trauma, physiological response to things reminiscent of the trauma, avoidance behaviour’s such as efforts to avoid, places, people, or activities that may remind one of the trauma, inability to recall parts of the trauma, restriction of one's emotions, a sense that one may not live a long, successful life, a diminished interest in activities, feelings of detachment from others, difficulty with sleep, irritability of angry outbursts, and/or difficulty concentrating.

Whether suffering from PTSD or being close to someone who has PTSD can be challenging. Often loved ones do not know how to act or behave when someone has undergone significant trauma. Individuals with PTSD or PTSD symptoms can often have difficulty in their academic, occupational, and/or personal life. People at particular risk include survivors of military action, rescue workers, or someone who has experienced a personally devastating event such as a violent crime or natural disaster. PSTD can be debilitating. It can be a chronic or an acute problem.

The professional counsellors at Healing Counselling can help you understand more about the aftermath of experiencing trauma. They can help those suffering with the disorder to learn coping skills and behavioural techniques to work through issues surrounding the trauma.

 

 

Women's Issues

Issues seen more often in women include anxiety, depression, eating disorders, poor body image, and low self-esteem. Today, more than ever, women are dealing with societal pressures, discrimination issues, inequality at the work place, and trying to juggle a too often hectic schedule. Women today face the challenge of trying to meet everybody else's needs, often ignoring their own needs.

They may find that they try to be the perfect wife, mother, employee, etc., and still maintain their home, social life, and physical health. Too often women feel overwhelmed and under a great deal of pressure. As a result, women may stop engaging in adequate self-care, may experience guilt, and may feel emotionally and physically exhausted. Add to these marital problems, behavioural problems with their children, a lack of social support, and a woman can easily end up depressed and anxious. Many times women turn to unhealthy coping strategies or they shut down and sacrifice their own wants and needs.

The counsellors at Healing Counselling are trained professionals wanting to help women who have a desire to change but may not know how to go about changing. Exploring issues around your needs as a woman and helping you to understand how to deal more effectively with your problems is something that Healing counselling can offer.

Healing  counsellors can listen to your concerns and help you work toward your goals, whether those goals have to do with improving relationships, increasing your self-esteem, teaching you assertiveness training to get your needs met in a direct and appropriate manner, or just to be there to listen and understand the struggles you may be facing. Women, by nature are relational people, and the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. By finding your voice, your meaning, your true passion, and your goals, you can begin to live a life you truly love and become the person you have always wanted to be.

 

​© 2015 Robert Lower.

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